Find Time for Sex
FIND TIME FOR SEXStatistics suggest we’re heating the sheets twice a week on average. But if you have kids you might be struggling to find time for sex more than twice per month! So how do you rekindle your sex life? When pressed, many couples admit that they don’t get intimate as often as they’d both like. So what gets in the way? Life does! Even the best of intentions can be sidelined by the relentless pressures of family life.
So Where Do We Start?
This may sound crazy but the best way to rekindle your sex life is to restart having regular sex. Why? Because having sex actually reinforces (rather than dissipates) the desire for more sex. Sexual activity increases levels of your brain’s “love drug” dopamine, the chemical that triggers lust and desire. Dopamine effectively makes you feel infatuated with your partner. Both sex and dopamine lead to an increase in and the release of testosterone, the hormone that drives both the male and female sexual desire.
Here are our Informed tips to rekindle your sex life......
Make Weekly Dates for Time Alone.
One evening a week earmark some time for one another. Switch off the computer and the telly, open a bottle of wine and just talk. Reconnecting in this relaxed way will lead you naturally into having a more intimate relationship. If sex follows, all the better!Take a Class Together
Ideally find one that involves physical contact. Learning to tango or to give and receive Swedish massages increases the likelihood of more touching in private. Click here for evening classes in Edinburgh.
Mark your Calendar for 'Sex Dates'
Put a little red heart on your partner's calendar and reveal its meaning and your intentions. Anticipation can be a powerful aphrodisiac! Actively plan and shop for your dates as you would in the early stages of a new relationship. Buy new lingerie, try new perfumes, think perhaps about raunchy videos or sex toys…
Arrange Nights Away From Home
A change of scene can recharge your romance. One night a month at a nearby bed and breakfast or a weekend drive into the country with a blanket in the boot of the car offer valuable opportunities for personal and shared renewal.
Make More Time for Making Out
A study in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality revealed that married women are more likely to have a low sex drive than unmarried women and are less likely to have an orgasm during intercourse! Surprised? Busier lives may be to blame so get your spouse to pitch in more. If you find yourself doing substantially more than your partner you may well feel resentful or taken for granted. That’s bad news for any relationship, particularly an intimate one.
Grab a Quickie
There's nothing wrong with a quickie when you're both short on time and it can be frantic and exciting. Rather than settling for a few hasty thrusts for his pleasure alone, though, stimulate yourself during sex and have your own quick orgasm!
Rekindle the romance
Because a woman's libido is affected by how close she feels to her partner it’s vital to keep the romance in your relationship. Read our '7 Steps to a Happy Relationship'.
Go to bed earlier
If you can manage 7+ hours of sleep a night (preferably 8 or 9) you won’t be as tired. And if you’re not so tired and you’re under the sheets with your lover for longer… doesn’t take a genius to work out that it could result in more sex! And – as we know – more sex leads to more sex leads to more sex…………
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