The 3 Deadliest Mistakes Women Make with Men

THE 3 DEADLIEST MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WITH MEN

We asked a selection of men what aspects of women’s behaviour most turned them off. 

The most common answers fall broadly into three categories.  The men believed these behaviours to be responsible for more failed relationships than any other reasons.
  





1.  Communicating That You’re Insecure and Needy

This was definitely the most common – and most potentially fatal reason given.  It seems there are lots of signals women give to men that set off their Insecurity Alarm and make them think again about taking the relationship further.  Even the most confident women can inadvertently give off fatally negative vibes.  Here’s what our men said:


‘I hate women who are constantly slagging off other women.  Not only is it bitchy and unattractive, I know perfectly well that she’s frightened I’ll be attracted to any other woman and wants to cover up her own insecurities.  It’s exhausting being with someone who’s constantly looking for attention, approval and validation.  I’d rather go out with my male friends and just have a laugh’.   Ewan, 37.

‘I get fed up being blamed and compared to all the other guys in her past who’ve let her down.  Yes, I get that she’s been hurt and she’s insecure.  But it’s not my fault.  Eventually I find myself defending the ‘bad’ guys because I’m starting to think it’s something she’s done to make them treat her that way and also it’s like she’s so totally anti-male now’.  Pete, 29

I won’t stay in a relationship with a woman who lets me treat her badly.  I know that sounds weird, like I shouldn’t be testing things.  But she needs to have enough confidence in herself to know what she wants, stick to her guns and make sure she gets it. I totally respect that’. George ,31.

I hate how women immediately start trying to prevent you from doing all the things you used to enjoy – pursuing sport, seeing your friends etc.  The first thing they usually do is ditch their friends so they can spend more time with you but that’s so overpowering and clingy.  As soon as I see that start to happen, I just want out.’  Colin, 35 

Why do so many women keep trying to  “fix” things with a whole lot of yakker.  What’s the point of trying to nag a man into feeling  the way you want him to feel.  It doesn’t work like that.  He either feels it or he doesn’t’.  Simon,  41 

I can’t stand women who’re constantly hanging onto my arm and touching me in public.  It’s like they’re trying to stake their territory or something.  It makes me feel claustrophobic’.  Paul, 26  

2.   Trying to Appeal to his Sexual Rather than Emotional Nature  

 
Men, it seems, are tired of women assuming they’re all about sex and nothing else…

‘Women have this insulting idea that men are just driven by sexual desire so they often ‘hand over’ sex to try to force an emotional connection. Sex is about sharing that connection and the connection comes from the intellect, not the nether regions!’  Harvey, 51

‘It’s so blindingly obvious that  men can separate the sexual and emotional and see them as two entirely different things.  Because so many women get closer and closer to a man when they have sex with him they imagine it’s the same for men.  It isn’t’.  Bob, 43

‘Yes ok , I admit I’m attracted to women who wear short skirts and lots of make up.  Yes, I’ll sleep with them, but I see them strictly as sexual partners.  Once I see them that way, it’s fixed though. I can’t go back to seeing them as potential life partners’.  David, 46




 3. Being Predictable

We didn’t see this one coming, but it appears that men are as enamoured of surprises as women are…..

I love it when a woman does something I’m totally not expecting – even if it’s just going out on a Saturday night without me!  I love women who use humour and tease rather than just the nagging and emotional pressure.  I really respond to that and it’s hard to stay mad with a woman who makes you laugh’.   Stu,  47

‘I’ve had loads of relationships and they all follow a predictable pattern.  Really intense in the beginning, then she starts to behave as if she owns me, gives up all her own interests and expects me to do the same.  Then she starts implying that I’m letting her down, just like all the others……’  Robin, 52

You see it in all the films – the adventurous, independent, confident and unpredictable gal beds and keeps the guy who’s never wanted to commit.  OK it’s a cliché, but it’s a cliché for a reason…..’  John, 39